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hey this is Leo for actualize org and in this video I'm gonna tell you how to do goal-setting okay let's talk about goal-setting how do you go about setting powerful goals and making sure that those goals actually get realized we've all been at that place after New Year's resolution time right a week after New Year's and we set some sort of big ambitious goal and then what happens we all know what happens it falls through so how do we turn that around and how do we make goals work not only for New Year's time but throughout the whole year and how do we make them practical it's something that is actually changing our life transforming your life for the better I mean personally I've struggled with goals for a long time and that's because they seem simple they seem obvious but this is deceptively so you need to go in there and start to look into what actually makes goals work and what is not relevant so that you can set proper powerful goals to achieve your dreams and that's ultimately why we care about this right the goal-setting process is important only for that reason if you're like me then you have big dreams for your life you know that you're capable of so much more than you're currently realizing and what that means is that you have some sort of dream you have some sort of vision you have some sort of grand castle in the sky for maybe what your relationship could be like or what your career could be like how your business might be thriving what your health might be like what your lifestyle is like so all of those areas in your life to achieve big things in those places then you need to have some sort of goals to get you there right a dream is like a very big overarching goal but then you need to break that down into smaller chunks so you can actually go and implement it so let's talk about how to do this and where people make mistakes with the goal-setting process because I have made these mistakes and I still make these mistakes even though I've studied this stuff because it's just very obvious it's just very easy to overlook this stuff it is so let's take a look at that the first thing I got to tell you and this is this is a very important realization for you to have is that right now you probably don't have any goals at all this is the number one reason that people are not getting much much much more success in life is simply because they do not have goals and now you might be listening to this and you might be into self-development and you might have done already some work on yourself and you might be saying well Leo I know that's that's a that's a bad way to go about life having no goals so I have some goals for my life and what I'm trying to tell you here is that even you if you think that you have goals right now actually you don't have any goals so let's clarify what this actually means because this will be a shocking revelation to you and the reason that you're not getting more success in your life is because you don't have goals but you think you do in order to fix the problem for so you got to realize that you have one so this is how we start unearthing all this is that we discover that there's a problem here the problem is that you're deceiving yourself about the goals that you're setting so why am I saying this I mean you might have some goals even someone who is not into personal development will probably still say that they have a couple of goals for their life well here is my definition of what a goal is relative to what other people think it is see most people think a goal is a desire a vague desire of wanting something of wanting something better right isn't that what a goal is in popular culture it's just a desire that's what it is like oh you know I wish I had a nicer house you know I wish I had a better marriage you know I wish my business was earning twice as much you know I wish that I was a little bit healthier I wish that I lived in a different City I wish I drove a better car I wish I wasn't so negative so critical all the time so these kind of vague wishes and when you have a wish like this it's I mean you got to start somewhere so that's all right you can start there but the problem is that people stay there and they stay there for years they stay there for their whole life and then they wonder why they don't get what they want well that's because what they had was they had a very vague loosey-goosey desire for something they don't even know exactly what and it wasn't a goal here's what a real goal is I would say there's about five points that constitute a proper and true goal and if you're not hitting all five of these points then what you've got is you've got a desire you don't have a goal and therefore it's not gonna work the way a goal should work it's not going to get you as motivated as it needs to it's not going to get you taking action in the way that you want to it's it's not gonna it's not going to inspire you and ultimately it's not gonna get realized it's just gonna remain in Fantasyland so here are the five points point number one is that a goal has to be specific specific very very clear your goal has to be crystal clear I'm going to go into more depth on each one of these points right now I just want to throw all the points out there so point number one is specific point number two is your goal has to be big and compelling your goals have to be big point number three is that they have to be written down it doesn't count if it's just in your head it has to be written down point number four is that you have to review your goal every single day like clockwork review it every single day and point number five is that your goal has to be aligned with your highest values all right so these are my five points for extremely effective and practical goal setting if you hit all five of these points with your goal you are gonna be miles and miles closer towards actually realizing it so let's go into each one of these points a little bit and and elaborate specific most people go most people's goals fail right here is that they're simply not specific at all you have some vague notion that you want to live somewhere else but you haven't specified what country what Street what neighborhood what the conditions are for a good place to live or a bad place to live so your chances of getting there are very very slim or your business maybe you want to start a new business or you want to take your business and you want to improve the current one you've got but it's just a vague desire maybe a vague desire to be earning a little bit more money or to be a little bit more financially secure but what does that mean what does that really mean how many extra dollars you may be earning per day per month per year you have to articulate that you have to be very clear what kind of business do you want what do you want your business to be doing what exactly not some vague wishy-washy mission statement something very very concrete and exact and crystal clear the more clear you can be about what you want then your chances of having it are astronomically increased so this is probably the biggest place where most people fail and I coach so many people and people come into coaching with me and obviously they come in because they have a desire to improve their life in some way but these desires are so so so vague so a lot of the work that we do is on clarification and that alone right there it might seem like it's so simple what clarification you know is that really important you might wonder it's critically important it's so important that you would be shocked which is why a lot of times clients will come in and work with me for just a few sessions we get so much clarity they have more clarity about their life than they've had in decades literally people who have been running businesses or having successful careers for decades then they come in and they talk to me for a couple of hours they have more clarity about what they're doing in their life than they have for years it's ridiculous just because you start to dig into it you sort of ask the right questions they start to see how little they really know about what they want and then it's like oh that's why I've been stuck so long because I don't know what I'm actually going after right so specificity is very critical the next point is size the size of the goal the goal has to be big the best way to explain this is just with an example do you think it's easier to lose 5 pounds and keep it off or to lose 50 pounds and to keep it off it might seem like losing five pounds would be easier because what does it take to lose five pounds maybe go to the gym consistently for a couple of weeks diet a little bit and you can drop your 5 pounds what does it take to lose 50 pounds well you got to go to the gym for months you got to really work your ass off hard you got a really retrain your diet and your your nutrition habits and be very consistent with it for a very long time and then maybe you can lose 50 pounds but you know what for most people losing 50 pounds is actually going to be easier than losing 5 and that's because the goal the aspirational component of this goal the vision of the goal is more inspiring and more motivating when there's something juicy to it something juicy behind it when your goal is incremental when it's small when it's not very significant then your brain is not going to get activated to actually start to make the changes that are necessary to create that goal and then to sustain that goal that's why so many people have these little yo-yo diets where they lose five pounds drop five pounds and they just keep doing that back and forth because it's very hard to motivate yourself to lose five pounds you can't register five pounds no one's gonna see you being 5 pounds lighter you're not gonna get any compliments you're not gonna look much sexier by losing 5 pounds if you lose 50 pounds you can imagine all the sudden wow that that can really have a big effect on my life you can imagine whom I'm gonna look totally different in my photos and I'm gonna I'm gonna be much more energetic and I'm gonna also have more options with the opposite sex so my dating lines gonna get better my sex life is gonna improve so all these factors now start to come into your mind and now you're you're like wow you know I can actually do this sure it's gonna take some work but you know what I cannot I can see that the the outcome is gonna be worth it and so that's what a big goal is setting a big goal so many people make the mistake of of laying it up and saying well I can't lose 50 pounds or like well I can't start a million dollar business or well you know I'll set some sort of goal but I don't want to set a big goal because if I set a big goal then there's a chance that I won't be able to to to realize it and so what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna size little goal with the hope that I can realize that it's not so ambitious well the problem with that strategy is that when you send a little goal you run an even greater risk of not achieving it because you're not even get activated to go and try it it's going to be so and motivating to you the biggest problem you have is complacency it's not over ambition so go ahead and shoot for being over ambitious rather than under ambitious with your goals okay the third point is right the goal down you have to write it down if it's just in your head it's too loose it's too vague it's still too vague even if you've clarified it in your head you have to actually write it down when you write it down there's something magical that happens your brain registers it in a different way plus it's there on paper so you can always refer back to it which leads me to the fourth point the fourth point was to review your goal on a daily basis this is where people get it completely wrong almost nobody does this I would say less than point zero zero one percent of people who set goals will actually review them on a daily basis and this is the whole point of setting a goal you write it down and then you look at it in the morning in the evening at lunchtime whenever get a chance but you have to look at it every single day until it's accomplished you have to look at it review it in your mind so it's always on the top of your mind otherwise you're going to forget about it just writing down some some lofty goal and then stuffing it in your filing cabinet and never looking at it again how is it gonna get realized I mean if it's a very little goal that might work if it's a goal that takes one day to accomplish that might work but if it's a goal that takes a month or six months or a year or five years to accomplish which are what most significant and meaningful goals are like then you're never going to accomplish that just by writing it down once and then stuffing it in your drawer somewhere you get to read it again and again and again and the fifth point the last point is that your goal has to be aligned with your values this is a bit of a deeper topic that is hard to go into here because I just want to keep this focused on the goal-setting process but you have to know your values I have other videos that talk about value identification discovering who you really are what is most meaningful to you in life when you discover that when you know your life purpose and you know what your values are I help people do that through coaching but when you figure that out and you know exactly what your top ten values are then your goals need to be aligned with that right whatever your top values are your goals have to match up with it because if they don't what's gonna happen I found this a lot in my own life is that you're gonna go out and you're gonna start to do stuff and I'm gonna set various goals for yourself and those goals are not gonna be grounded in anything important they're mostly gonna come from just random ideas that you get from society maybe you see something on TV and all the sudden you get some idea to go lose some weight or you see some some friend of yours driving a nice car and you get this idea that oh I'm you know I need a nice car too and you go out there and you start doing this stuff and it doesn't fulfill you and so then the whole goal setting process breaks down because you see yourself creating these goals but then you see that the goals are not fulfilling you and so you stop setting goals and the reason that's happening is because you're setting goals that are not aligned with what you really want in life and the reason that is is because you're not clear about what you wanted life so first clarify what you want then start to create goals that align with it that's gonna be the last point that's really really critical and as a as a final wrap-up here before I leave you what I want to mention as the last real point is is the fact that your goals no matter how good you get with this goal-setting process you have to be okay with the fact that not all of your goals are going to get accomplished and that's not a failure on your part per se it's actually a good thing you don't want every single one of your goals to get accomplished there's a reason that this goal-setting process kind of happens the way it does is because if you could just instantly get everything that you wanted it wouldn't be actually healthy for your life what's better is to to go through this process and to set goals set lots of goals create lists of goals and then as you're working towards and you're gonna start to see like okay so to accomplish this goal right here I'm gonna actually have to go and like put in a lot of money a lot of energy a lot of time a lot of effort a lot of emotional labor you know what I realized that that's not actually something I want to do so then you cross it off you don't need that goal anymore that wasn't a really genuine goal for you then you go on to the next goal and you say oh you know what this go yeah it's gonna be I can see how this is gonna take months of work and it's gonna be very difficult and it's gonna maybe cost me some money but you know what even if all those costs are analyzed I still want that goal that's still important to me and see there what happened was that you saw the cost of the goal and you actually maybe even went out and tried to try to make it happen in one place or another and then you saw like oh you know what this is harder than I thought it was but it's still worthwhile right this is how you grow yourself to sell you discover yourself is when you kind of push your boundaries and you start to actually see the costs of your goals because every goal every meaningful goal has a cost you're not just gonna go and build a business with no cost you're not gonna create a relationship with no cost you're not gonna create the kind of health you want with no cost you're not gonna improve your psychology and your it of your negative thinking with no cost there's always some sort of cost and don't make them if they mistake of thinking that that has to be money many times it's not money and money is actually an easy cost to pay the harder costs are the emotional labor costs that are involved you know the emotional labor involved with losing weight or admitting to yourself that you suck in relationships they have to improve their or starting to introspect and get rid of your negative thinking and your anxiety these kinds of things these are much harder and it would be so nice if we could just pay a little bit of money to get that problem fixed but ultimately you can't pay someone to to do that for you as Jim Rohn says you can't pay someone to do your push-ups for you you have to do them yourself and so realize that if you're making lists of goals and you're very ambitious person for example me you know I literally have lists that have 50 hundred goals on them for the year but invariably you know that your passes and I realize that only about 20% of them get accomplished the other 80% they never do even though my goals aren't specific they're big and they're important to me I feel like they are at the moment when I write them down eventually what I find happens is that there's this kind of sifting process that happens and the weaker goals they get sifted out and nothing no action gets taken on them but those top 20% those are the ones you really want to focus on right those are the ones that are big and that you're gonna have motivation to do so as you're making these lists that's okay don't beat yourself up for not accomplishing everything you know have to be perfect you won't be in fact it's a good thing because if you're accomplishing everything on all your lists that means you're not prioritizing your time effectively you want to be focusing your time on those top 20% of the goals that you have that are really gonna make a big meaningful impact on your life so that's a totally good way to to work the goals and to to work them throughout the year all right so this is what I have to say about goal-setting follow these points and you're going to have really really powerful effective goals not just New Year's resolutions but you can do this throughout the entire year all right this is Leo I'm signing off go ahead and please leave me your comments down below please if you like this go ahead and click the like button so that this video can get boosted higher and go ahead and share it with your friends and then of course if you like this video and you like this content then come check out actualize that org sign up to my newsletter actualize that work is all about helping you to self actualize and what that means is how do you actually move towards the dreams that you have right how do you unleash your full potential in life whatever it is that you want your inner development whatever kind of circumstance do you want to set up in your life how do you actually go about doing that I've spent so much time in my 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